Your first Session
Reaching out for counselling can feel like a big step, and it's natural to feel a mix of things in the days leading up to a first session. Nervousness, hope, uncertainty, maybe even some second-guessing. All of that is welcome here, and none of it means you're doing this wrong.
A first session is, more than anything, a chance for us to meet. There's no expectation that you'll arrive knowing exactly what to say or where to start. Some people come with a clear sense of what they want to talk about. Others simply know that something doesn't feel right, and they're not yet sure how to put it into words. Both are completely fine.
If we're meeting in person, you'll be welcomed into a quiet, comfortable space where we can sit and talk without interruption. If we're meeting online, we'll connect by video from wherever feels most private and settled for you. Some people prefer the warmth of being in the same room, others feel safer talking from their own home with a cup of tea nearby. There's no right way, only what works for you.
In that first hour, I'll usually ask a little about what's brought you to counselling, and we'll talk through some practicalities, things like confidentiality, how sessions work, and any questions you have. But mostly, the first session is about you beginning to get a feel for me, and for what it's like to be in this kind of space. You don't have to share more than feels right. You won't be asked to revisit anything difficult before you're ready. And you can pause, change direction, or sit quietly at any point.
Counselling works best when it feels like a good fit, and that's not always something you can tell from a website. The first session is partly about giving you the chance to notice how it feels to talk with me, and to decide, in your own time, whether you'd like to continue.
If you've been thinking about reaching out, please know there's no need to wait until things feel worse, or to have it all figured out first. A short message is enough. Whatever you're carrying, you'll be met with warmth, respect, and genuine care.
I'd be glad to hear from you whenever you feel ready.
Fiona
